When I was in my late teens and almost throughout my early 20s, I had this belief that all the fancy things, fur coats, precious stones, and expensive champagne all defined what it meant to be first-class living. Although, living a life full of extravagance and enjoying life’s pleasures are first-class experiences by society’s standards; I learned soon enough what ‘first-class living’ was not.
What It isn’t
At weeks away from the big 4-0 (hey November) the first thing that comes to vision, when I think of first-class living, is not expensive trips, fine dining, nor Chanel. It’s not an elegant glass of the most expensive champagne, or valet parking at an affluent rooftop bar. Nor is it preferred seating on a flight to Bali. No.
Although, all desirable things that do add joy momentarily, I’m sure. None of those things are what ultimately denote a life of top quality. At least I feel it’s not entirely found in material things nor experiences.
When I think of first-class living, I think of two things. Well, three actually except, we will leave the very important #3 (access to top quality healthcare) to the health insurance blogs.
In any case, peace and happiness are what I feel make a first-class life. Getting up every day and truly living a life of peace, love, and happiness. The dictionary defines one of the meanings of first-class as- the highest quality. Therefore, if you’re not living in peace, are not happy, have no love for yourself or others, and are not healthy yet have all the extravagant things- are you truly living life at the highest quality?
This is why as far as I’m concerned privileges and material processions are not the first thing that come to mind. This is not judgement at others who have this quality of life, it’s quite desirable and an aspiration for many. In a heartbeat I would take a first-class seat to Bali. In addition, you must know that I sit on the couch and virtually visit many beautiful places through YouTube and find inspiration for my spaces through others definition of first class living. Nevertheless, the topic today is about genuinely defining a life of first-class. In addition, this post is just a personal belief that the highest quality of life comes from our internal sources and how we chose to show up in life for ourselves and others.
First Class Living
I remember a time not long ago when all I wanted was to live in peace.
I was stuck in a toxic relationship with myself and a plus one. We were both living with years of unresolved trauma that put a strain on our relationship. During this time, all I truly desired the most was a life of peace. Not a designer handbag or dinner on a yacht or a trip to Bali (of course here we can all agree it would have helped) however, peace and authentic joy are truly what I found to be my deepest desire. What I realized was, that in those moments, every single thing I so deeply desired to have, could not be bought.
This led me on a path of deep and long reflection. It led me to desire a life of top quality and first-class living. It led me to dive deep and try to discover what that looked like to me and what I needed to do to get there. The journey has been one of growth, and one of making others uncomfortable, and finding my peace. I am not at the finish line, but every day is a day I’m discovering even more peace more of who I am, more of extending my arms at anything that threatens that and more first-class living, my way. So, here I am bringing you along and encouraging you to discover your idea of first-class living as well.
How Can You Create Your Own First-Class Life?
Take Action! Here below are tips that have propelled me towards First-Class living.
Meditate
Emerge yourself in God’s word and continuously ask for wisdom. There is nothing more beautiful than waking up every day and knowing exactly what your purpose is at that moment. Purpose is where you find fulfillment.
Mindset Shift
Know that YOU CAN change what doesn’t serve you at any time. You are not a tree that you cannot move. You can decide how you want to live and take steps to get there. Yes, it’s as simple as deciding.
Create New Habits
Abandon unhealthy patterns that run in your family which do not serve you; decide that they can and WILL run out with you, and truly put in the work every day. We can dream all the things, dream of our ideal self however we must take the action.
Put Your Emotional Health First
Build that strength and courage to walk away from anyone, when you’re getting less than what you deserve. Staying in places that do not serve us will never take us to where we need to be. It’s not always easy but we will always be glad we did it.
Release relationships
Let go of those who do not bring out the best in you; you will know. How will you know? When your best comes out at the times they’re not around. We are all on our own personal journey and at times relationships need to come to an end. At times they are temporary and allow people to grow without each other so that they are better at the next chapter and at times they are for good. Whatever the outcome believe that what is meant to be will always be. Wether it’s with significant others, friends, or family.
Assess your circle
Make sure the people you’re surrounded by people who pour positively into your life and that of your family. Otherwise build new connections or sit alone for a season. It’s better to be alone than in draining company. At times for whatever reason, we may not be able to release relationships. But, we can limit the times we are in their presence and fill the rest of our time with those who bring out our best.
Hold yourself to a higher standard
Upgrade the quality of your conversations. Opt out of gossip, chronic complaining, and speech that’s intended to tear yourself or others down. What you feed will grow. For the record there is a difference between gossip and venting. You can read that here. We are only human however it is critically important to know the difference between the two to be and live at a higher level. You were not born to be average!
Pursue your inner self
Be sure that your daily actions are evolving you to be YOUR vision of your best you. If your dream is to start a business, a new career, to re-invent yourself, to get involved in charity or volunteer work? Do that! If you scroll through Pinterest dreaming of baking beautiful cupcakes for your loved ones go and do that. Would you like to meet new people? Take the first step and reach out to someone new, deliver flowers to neighbors you do not know. Always wanted to play an instrument? Who is stopping you? Whoever your inner woman is, go and chase her. Everyday.
First-Class living, begins when you start living your most healthy, happy, authentic inner self. It’s when you realize that happiness is an inside job. How beautiful! How beautiful it is that creating a first-class life of peace and happiness has been given to you. A free will, and the gift of creating.
That trip to Bali, and the sparkling glass of Champagne on a roof top bar? It’s simply the icing on the cake.
May you be inspired to find and create the woman yearning for her first-class life.
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xoxo Love- Meg
